I’m Not Controlled Anymore

Written By Elizabeth Tubridy

Now that I am divorced and have had some time to really sit with everything…I’ve started to see things so much clearer.

Looking back, I can see how so much of what happened wasn’t about love- it was about control. And even now, though his text messages I can still see it. It’s not about my son. It’s about trying to hold on to power that doesn't belong to him anymore. It’s about trying to hold on to power that doesn’t belong to him anymore.

But here’s the thing- I’m done giving him that control.

I’m the primary custodial parent. Hunter feels safe and happy with me. That’s not an opinion; that’s the truth. And deep down, I think my ex knows it, and that’s exactly why he’s trying so hard to stir things up.

For so long, I lived in fear of his reactions-trying not to upset him, trying to keep the peace, shrinking myself just to survive. But not anymore.

I finally see the difference between being “difficult” and being done. And I am done letting him control my emotions, my choices, or my peace.

He can send me all the messages he wants- I’m not bending anymore. Because now I know my worth. And I know what peace feels like!

This chapter isn’t about anger. It’s about clarity. And clarity changes everything.

What are you no longer willing to shrink yourself to keep?

Elizabeth Tubridy

I’m Elizabeth — a mother, creator, and woman who has learned what it means to rebuild from the ground up.

This space was born from a season of deep change. After walking away from a life that no longer felt safe, aligned, or true, I began the quiet work of healing — not perfectly, not quickly, but honestly. What started as survival slowly became self-discovery, and then something more: a return to myself.

Through writing, reflection, and creativity, I share the truths I once silenced. Stories about emotional healing, motherhood, boundaries, resilience, and learning to choose yourself after years of putting everyone else first. This blog isn’t about bitterness or blame — it’s about clarity, growth, and reclaiming your voice.

Alongside my writing, I create under Earthly Enchantments — nature-inspired pieces rooted in calm, intention, and magic found in small moments. Creativity has always been my anchor, a way to process, express, and reconnect with joy.

If you’re here, maybe you’re navigating your own season of becoming. Maybe you’re learning to trust yourself again, or simply looking for proof that it’s possible to start over — gently, bravely, and on your own terms.

You’re welcome here.

https://www.earthlyenchantmentsnh.com
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