Losing Control Isn't My Problem

Every single text message from my ex, whether it is recent or weeks or months ago- circles back to the same thing. He attacks my personality, my behavior, and tried o label me as a “bad parent”. But when I read my own messages, I see truth. I see facts. I see calm, logical responses centered around our son- not emotions, not blame, just our child’s well-being.

It’s frustrating that he refuses to talk about the real issues, like trick-or-treating or what’s best for our son. Instead, he dodges it completely, twisting the conversation into something it’s not. It’s like accountability terrifies him.

But I’m starting to realize something deeper: he’s threatened. Not by anything I’ve done wrong, but because I’m finally not reacting. I’m no longer playing into his control. He feels that loss of power, and it scares him.

I’m not a bad parent- I’m a protective, loving, steady one. My son sees that. He’s told me himself that he wants to be with me full time, and even if the court doesn’t hear his voice yet, I do.

I’m listening.

I’m standing my ground- calm, firm, and focused on what truly matters. His control is slipping, and that’s not my problem anymore.