Reflection Isn’t Something Everyone Can Do
Sometimes I sit and wonder if my ex ever truly stopped to reflect. If he’s ever sat alone with the weight of what happened, what was lost, or how things unfolded.
But then I realize-that kind of reflection requires stillness. And stillness requires facing yourself.
He moved on quickly, without hesitation, without pausing to process or heal. Almost immediately, he needed pysical presence, distraction, and validation. There was no space for introspection-only escape. And while I don’t judge that, I understand now that not everyone has the capacity to sit with discomfort long enough to grow from it.
And even now, from what the kids share, his relationship with his new girlfriend is often strained. Arguments, tnesion exists. And that pattern feels familiar- unresolved pain doesn’t disappear just because someone new is standing beside you.
In contrast, my relationship with my boyfriend has shown me something entirely different.
We’ve never had arguments fueled by control, anger, our past, or avoidance when disagreements came up, we talked. We listened. We communicated openly and respectfully. There was safety in the conversations- not fear. No yelling. No manipulation. Just two people choosing understanding over ego.
And that difference has taught me something powerful.
Healing changes the way you love.
Reflection changes the way you communicated
And emotional safety changes everything.
